Whose things get peed on? How tolerant was/is Liza to loud noises? Who's responsible for piss clean-up and pet care, and how has that changed with the new baby around? It's difficult to live with loud, urinous behavior from roomies even if you love them and chose it (my elderly parents come to mind).
Unsurprising that respite from the dog "for a while" didn't stop the complaints; the problem wasn't resolved, and came with having to refuse more than once to visit it. Why do you still hate your job, you had all weekend and work only bugged you a couple times!
So far they've tried everything! Ignoring her concerns. Declaring half-measures good enough. Negotiating about her behavior (absolutely the dog shouldn't be kicked or threatened; but is she able to reduce her exposure to the dog, or limit her responsibility for it?). Lastly, they've tried defining the real problem as Liza's emotions.
But by emotions they don't mean annoyance and disregard, they mean the trauma of "not having a family". Though she's lived with them for the second half of her life so far, they don't know if she'd "be open to being adopted" in the last 18mos she's got left of high school, so I'm not even sure if they mean losing her abusive natal family, or being kept at a distance since. LW, who do you see as your first child?
Lastly, why is rehoming the dog not an option? "Tolerate this nuisance you've been assigned" vs. "Abandon it" may indeed resonate emotionally (eyes LW), but do you think Liza's taking that dog with her when she moves out?
"The thing about 'transference' is that it's close but no cigar," Freud, probably
Unsurprising that respite from the dog "for a while" didn't stop the complaints; the problem wasn't resolved, and came with having to refuse more than once to visit it. Why do you still hate your job, you had all weekend and work only bugged you a couple times!
So far they've tried everything! Ignoring her concerns. Declaring half-measures good enough. Negotiating about her behavior (absolutely the dog shouldn't be kicked or threatened; but is she able to reduce her exposure to the dog, or limit her responsibility for it?). Lastly, they've tried defining the real problem as Liza's emotions.
But by emotions they don't mean annoyance and disregard, they mean the trauma of "not having a family". Though she's lived with them for the second half of her life so far, they don't know if she'd "be open to being adopted" in the last 18mos she's got left of high school, so I'm not even sure if they mean losing her abusive natal family, or being kept at a distance since. LW, who do you see as your first child?
Lastly, why is rehoming the dog not an option? "Tolerate this nuisance you've been assigned" vs. "Abandon it" may indeed resonate emotionally (eyes LW), but do you think Liza's taking that dog with her when she moves out?