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Dear Care and Feeding,
Any ideas for creative consequences for going into a sibling’s room uninvited? Repeatedly? The offender is elementary age and the room owner is in middle school. I am sure the stuff in there is incredibly enticing but boundaries and privacy are important!
—Raising a Snoop
Dear Raising a Snoop,
When your younger child goes into their sibling’s room uninvited, they should lose a privilege that they value: dessert, screen time, etc. You can also talk to your elder child about how to incentivize their little sibling not to go in there. Perhaps a week without sneaking in can net them a 15-minute visit into the room under their sibling’s supervision. Continue talking to your younger child about the importance of privacy and boundaries. Ask them how they would feel if someone was snooping through their stuff without permission. Explain to them that it is important for their older sibling to have a space that is all their own and that they would want the same respect for their own things. Talk to them about the fact that as we get older, we have a greater need for privacy, and that it’s important to respect that. Be consistent about consequences; as long as they get away with this behavior, they’re going to keep it up.
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Any ideas for creative consequences for going into a sibling’s room uninvited? Repeatedly? The offender is elementary age and the room owner is in middle school. I am sure the stuff in there is incredibly enticing but boundaries and privacy are important!
—Raising a Snoop
Dear Raising a Snoop,
When your younger child goes into their sibling’s room uninvited, they should lose a privilege that they value: dessert, screen time, etc. You can also talk to your elder child about how to incentivize their little sibling not to go in there. Perhaps a week without sneaking in can net them a 15-minute visit into the room under their sibling’s supervision. Continue talking to your younger child about the importance of privacy and boundaries. Ask them how they would feel if someone was snooping through their stuff without permission. Explain to them that it is important for their older sibling to have a space that is all their own and that they would want the same respect for their own things. Talk to them about the fact that as we get older, we have a greater need for privacy, and that it’s important to respect that. Be consistent about consequences; as long as they get away with this behavior, they’re going to keep it up.
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