I think LW left out too many details of the letter to weigh in on anything else, like where is her daughter in all of this? How does the daughter feel about LW dating someone who is young enough to be daughter's sibling?
I think Agony Aunt's response about SIL being "controlling" could be legitimate, but without knowing how the daughter feels, it's hard to tell whether SIL is being "controlling" or whether daughter + SIL presented a united front and LW wants to place the blame for her daughter's feelings at the SIL's doorstep.
SIL in this instance meaning "son in law" (as opposed to "sister in law").
As for visitation rights - that only comes into play if the parents are dead/ran off/signed away their parental rights. Otherwise, it's nice that you want a relationship with the grandkids, but that's entirely dependent on their parents who haven't given/shown any reason for their parental judgement to be in question. "I don't let my kids see/stay with/talk to their grandparents" isn't enough of a reason to question parental judgement. "I let my kids play with sharp knives near electrical outlets" on the other hand...
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I think LW left out too many details of the letter to weigh in on anything else, like where is her daughter in all of this? How does the daughter feel about LW dating someone who is young enough to be daughter's sibling?
I think Agony Aunt's response about SIL being "controlling" could be legitimate, but without knowing how the daughter feels, it's hard to tell whether SIL is being "controlling" or whether daughter + SIL presented a united front and LW wants to place the blame for her daughter's feelings at the SIL's doorstep.
SIL in this instance meaning "son in law" (as opposed to "sister in law").
As for visitation rights - that only comes into play if the parents are dead/ran off/signed away their parental rights. Otherwise, it's nice that you want a relationship with the grandkids, but that's entirely dependent on their parents who haven't given/shown any reason for their parental judgement to be in question. "I don't let my kids see/stay with/talk to their grandparents" isn't enough of a reason to question parental judgement. "I let my kids play with sharp knives near electrical outlets" on the other hand...