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conuly ([personal profile] conuly) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2023-03-13 11:10 pm

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DEAR ABBY: I am a 14-year-old freshman who had an abortion last year. I'm not sure who the father is, and I don't want to go through that again. I want to get birth control, but I'm afraid my parents or my older brother will find out. They would kill me. I already have a bad reputation, and I don't want a worse one by having someone find out I was pregnant (or could be again if I don't get birth control).

What would be the safest way for someone my age to get birth control? I know you'll probably say "no sex" is the best, but I enjoy it too much now. It's like a habit. Please help. -- GROWN-UP GIRL IN RHODE ISLAND


DEAR GIRL: I have never heard of a girl in this country being killed just because she had sex, so your fears about your parents doing that may be overblown. Your mom may not be thrilled with the news, but she won't kill you. You need her AND HER GUIDANCE.

If you continue on the path you're on, having sex with multiple boys, you may have more to worry about than becoming pregnant again. Some of the sexually transmitted diseases around today could cause you to become sterile at a time when you may want a child.

An organization called Planned Parenthood (plannedparenthood.org) can provide you with birth control. It can also inform you about STDs and how to avoid them. Because you feel you cannot stop yourself from having sex, contact Planned Parenthood as soon as possible, preferably before the next time you indulge your habit.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2792995