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[conuly]

DEAR ABBY: I have a friend who has recently separated from an abusive husband. I've always had feelings for her, and I recently let her know about them. My problem is, it seems like I have to walk through broken glass just for her to talk to me. Last week, I had emergency surgery, and even though she said she would, she never visited. Now that I'm out of the hospital, nothing has changed. Must I just let her go and forget about her? -- WANTS A CHANCE IN COLORADO

DEAR WANTS: You mentioned that this "friend" recently separated from an abusive husband. You did not say she was divorced. The woman you are trying to pursue has been damaged. She may not be ready for a romantic relationship for a very long time. Her actions show she is not interested in you, so, YES, let her go and look for someone who can reciprocate your feelings.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2733024

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[shirou]

Dear LW: Your friend likely needs time to recover (emotionally and mentally, perhaps physically or financially) from the abusive relationship she just escaped. You did not give her the chance to recover before disencumbering yourself of your feelings. Now your friend knows how little you value her needs and her feelings, so it is unlikely she will ever return yours. You need to let her go.

[conuly]

Now your friend knows how little you value her needs and her feelings

Not to mention her physical safety. What if her abusive ex, whom she just left, was also aware that LW was in the hospital and she might try to visit?