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DEAR ABBY: My fiancee has been married twice and insists on maintaining contact with four prior sexual partners (other than husbands). Most of the contact is by Facebook, instant message and cellphone. But one former partner is a high school classmate she sees every year at class "get-togethers."

I think what she's doing is inappropriate and will certainly be so after we are married. She insists they are just "friends" and I am being immature and "untrusting." She's adamant that she is unwilling to cease contact with these former sexual partners (now friends) under any circumstances. What's a guy to do? -- CROWDED IN FLORIDA

DEAR CROWDED: A "guy" either accepts what his fiancee is telling him -- that these old flames are just friends now -- or he terminates the engagement and starts searching for a woman he believes he CAN trust.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2728107

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Ah, the vague universal "appropriate" rather than owning his own feelings. Sheesh, dude, maybe you should be glad your fiancee doesn't demonize her exes?

Correction from 2023: "doesn't demonize most of her exes"

Yeah, my advice to this guy is, "She keeps in touch with exes? Good news, then! There's at least a chance she'll still be talking to you next year!"

Does it count as demonizing him when the characterization is accurate? Really, he did it to himself.