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Dear Annie: Recently, I got sick. My daughter texted my husband saying I don't let others take care of me and that I want to be the caregiver. She said, "She doesn't get taken care of very well. She always wants to take care of others." My husband took that as a slam that he doesn't take care of me. He exploded at her and said some not nice things. Anyway, they are mad at each other.
My daughter is talking to me, but my husband has been giving me the silent treatment as he feels I should have taken his side. I knew exactly what she meant, but he is just reading too much into it. He won't even let me make him food. He says, "You take care of yourself. I will take care of myself." I hate the silent treatment and that they won't try to talk this out. Now I'm stuck in the middle. Help! -- Hate the Middle Seat
Dear Middle Seat: Texting is a surefire way for wires to get crossed. Your daughter's intended message is clear: The best caregivers often make the worst patients. However, her phrasing coupled with a lack of in-person delivery says something different.
Your way out of the middle is to play mediator. Get your daughter and husband in one room together and help them talk it through. This miscommunication is far too minor and juvenile for anyone to be giving or getting the silent treatment. I'd also be willing to bet this tiff has done nothing to help your recovery, which is what should be the top priority here.
https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearannie/s-2709946
My daughter is talking to me, but my husband has been giving me the silent treatment as he feels I should have taken his side. I knew exactly what she meant, but he is just reading too much into it. He won't even let me make him food. He says, "You take care of yourself. I will take care of myself." I hate the silent treatment and that they won't try to talk this out. Now I'm stuck in the middle. Help! -- Hate the Middle Seat
Dear Middle Seat: Texting is a surefire way for wires to get crossed. Your daughter's intended message is clear: The best caregivers often make the worst patients. However, her phrasing coupled with a lack of in-person delivery says something different.
Your way out of the middle is to play mediator. Get your daughter and husband in one room together and help them talk it through. This miscommunication is far too minor and juvenile for anyone to be giving or getting the silent treatment. I'd also be willing to bet this tiff has done nothing to help your recovery, which is what should be the top priority here.
https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearannie/s-2709946
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