Ugh, this letter keeps unfolding into more layers of awful in my head. I think the reason that she's not refunding the money in her snit is because it would ruin the narrative.
As far as her generous friends are concerned, the story is still that LW is swooping in to save and help her precious grandchild. Returning that money would mean admitting that the story wasn't the way she told it - either reversing course to blame her grandkid for being terrible and undeserving, which might come off very badly after the prior tragic wailing about Sal LOSING EVERYTHING, or admitting that she hadn't been asked to raise that money and is not on good terms with her grandchild.
(Possibly not with the grandchild's parents, either, given that she really does not want to go through them to give the money. Wonder what the story is there. How many of LW's family members have learned by now to avoid the strings attached to Grandma's "help"? How desperate to reattach those strings does LW have to be, to make a unsolicited fuss on her own FB about someone else's tragedy, as if to bribe/extort her way back into having power over people she's alienated?)
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As far as her generous friends are concerned, the story is still that LW is swooping in to save and help her precious grandchild. Returning that money would mean admitting that the story wasn't the way she told it - either reversing course to blame her grandkid for being terrible and undeserving, which might come off very badly after the prior tragic wailing about Sal LOSING EVERYTHING, or admitting that she hadn't been asked to raise that money and is not on good terms with her grandchild.
(Possibly not with the grandchild's parents, either, given that she really does not want to go through them to give the money. Wonder what the story is there. How many of LW's family members have learned by now to avoid the strings attached to Grandma's "help"? How desperate to reattach those strings does LW have to be, to make a unsolicited fuss on her own FB about someone else's tragedy, as if to bribe/extort her way back into having power over people she's alienated?)