First, why did anyone tell husband's family about it in the first place?
I think it's a bad idea (I'd feel differently if the daughter was 25 and still wanted the procedure); I also think an adult is free to make their own decisions about their body, bad decisions included, and another adult is free to decide whether they want to bankroll it or not, and it's none of my damn business.
The only other thing I might ask if I actually knew the LW or the daughter is whether the daughter wants to have children, and if so how soon. Pregnancy changes bodies in general and breasts in particular, and the long-term change could go in either direction; some folks end up even flatter-chested after kids, and some end up much bustier. If daughter is hoping to have kids in the next 5-10 years, she might be better off waiting until after at least one pregnancy before having augmentation done. (And if her response is "but I won't find anyoen to have kids with if I don't have this surgery!", that'd tell me she's having it for the wrong reasons. But again, she's an adult, and adults get to make their own decisions.)
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I think it's a bad idea (I'd feel differently if the daughter was 25 and still wanted the procedure); I also think an adult is free to make their own decisions about their body, bad decisions included, and another adult is free to decide whether they want to bankroll it or not, and it's none of my damn business.
The only other thing I might ask if I actually knew the LW or the daughter is whether the daughter wants to have children, and if so how soon. Pregnancy changes bodies in general and breasts in particular, and the long-term change could go in either direction; some folks end up even flatter-chested after kids, and some end up much bustier. If daughter is hoping to have kids in the next 5-10 years, she might be better off waiting until after at least one pregnancy before having augmentation done. (And if her response is "but I won't find anyoen to have kids with if I don't have this surgery!", that'd tell me she's having it for the wrong reasons. But again, she's an adult, and adults get to make their own decisions.)