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[conuly]

DEAR ABBY: My college-age daughter who still lives with me is addicted to caffeine. I am considering slowly replacing the regular coffee with decaf without telling her. I don't want to tell her, as this may get in her head, and she may react by having withdrawal symptoms. I don't think she would be angry, because she knows I am always looking out for her. What do you think? -- MOM WITH A PLAN

DEAR MOM: Quit being a helicopter barista. Have enough respect for your college-age daughter to tell her the amount of coffee she consumes is a concern for you. Then ask if she would like your help to cut back. Withdrawal symptoms from caffeine are real, and your daughter might wonder what's wrong when she experiences symptoms of withdrawal if you keep her in the dark.

https://www.uexpress.com/life/dearabby/2022/04/29/2

Comments

[petrea_mitchell]

I love the phrasing "she may react by having withdrawal symptoms". Like that's a thing the daughter will choose to do to punish her.

[azurelunatic]

It sends a very grim message about the relationship.

[ysobel]

And only if she knows, because that's ~totally~ how withdrawal works...