Dear Harriette: Surprise pregnancy not good news

[cereta]

DEAR HARRIETTE: One night can change everything. I never thought that until now. After feeling sick for a couple of days, I went to the doctor to find out why. The doctor did a bunch of tests, and finally he came back in the room. He smiled as he told me, "Congratulations! You're pregnant."

This would be a perfect dream if I weren't only 21. It would be lovely if I weren't a struggling college student with parents who think I'm an angel. It really would be enjoyable if I at least could say that I was married and I knew for sure who the father was.

I'm so scared. My parents come down in a few weeks; what do I tell them? I don't want to get cut off financially. They didn't want me to go away for college. They feared that something like this -- or worse -- would happen. I don't know if my boyfriend or a guy from a party is the father. My boyfriend and I aren't on the best of terms right now. Tired of his cheating and lying, I went to a party deciding I'd have some fun of my own. Now I'm someone's mommy-to-be. I don't know what to do. I'm too young for all of this. -- Too Young, Jacksonville, Florida

DEAR TOO YOUNG: Find out your options from your doctor. Think about what you want to do. Tell your parents immediately. Apologize for not living up to their expectations, and then ask for their support and guidance. They may be mad, but they will likely help you figure out your next steps. You must decide what you want to do with your baby. Consider all of your options carefully.

Comments

[naath]

Fuck apologizing to the parents. Apologies are for when you've done something wrong, LW has done NOTHING WRONG, certainly nothing wrong TO HER PARENTS (maybe she did a wrong thing by cheating on her boyfriend, but maybe they were broken up at the time, or had agree to an open relationship, or something).

On the other hand maybe she wants to make nice with her parents, maybe they will give her money, money is nice. But the strings that come with the money may be too much to bear, LW should think carefully about what she is prepared to put up with before pouncing on the possible money.