Yeeeeeah.

And sometimes there's no way to SOLVE the "A cannot drive, B lives an hour away", at least not completely? Or that for C due to disability lives with stricter limitations than A, B or D and so stuff has to work around that. But at least if it's out in the open you can do what you CAN, and you can make it so nobody feels like they're just being negligently taken for granted, etc etc.

Which is sort of why in terms of LW, I am all about " . . . okay so what are all the OTHER details?" because this stuff is very . . . *waves hand* there are many factors, for me. Including stuff like "are you getting your meals made for you and your kitchen cleaned when she's at your place?" because that is something to take into account.

And if you're feeling the need to count every coin one way or the other, it means something's wrong on a much bigger scale that you need to figure out, but that doesn't mean that keeping a general eye on balance, in as many words and out loud with communication, should be anathema.

Or that's how I feel, anyway.