Ask Amy: I HAVE THE PERFECT ICON!

[cereta]

(Look, it's been a rough couple of days.)

Dear Amy: I have a dilemma. My daughter, who is 22, confided in me that one of her best friends from high school smokes pot.

My daughter does not hang out with her because they attend different colleges.

I was very close to this girl when she was growing up. She was at my house all the time. Her mom and I are still very good friends.

My daughter says to stay out of it and to not tell her mom.

I was very disappointed to hear this about my daughter's friend. I'm not sure what I should do. What do you think? Should I tell the mother what the daughter is doing?

Worried

Worried: I don’t think you should do anything. Would you report back to this mother if her (legal age) daughter had a cocktail?

Marijuana is quickly attaining legal status; the jury seems to be out on how casual and occasional marijuana use affects people over time.

Unless this young woman has health problems or serious risk factors relating to her marijuana use, you have no cause to report it to her mommy.

Plus — it’s simply none of your business.

Comments

[xenacryst]

Take an edible and calm down, LW.

[cereta]

Honestly, the alarmism cracked me right the heck up. My bff's local Republican leader mom makes her pot banana muffins - she even got a butter-infusing device off of Amazon. My 84-year-old mother, raised in small town southern Ohio, who once told me that the answer to {sibling} asking if I had ever smoked pot (I took the 5th) was "no" even if it wasn't "no," responded to my very timid question as to whether she had thought about marijuana for her chronic nausea, "Well, no, but my medication is working pretty well. If we get to a place where it's not, I might want some information." *\o/*

Seriously, pot? The 1980's called. They want their very special episode back.

[jadelennox]

Last week, I very nervously told my mum -- my "I've only ever been tipsy twice in my life" mum, my "I once smoked two cigarettes in the early 1960s" mum -- that I've been prescribed medical mj for chronic pain.

"Oh, I've been taking it topically in a cream for my arthritis!" she cheerfully responded.

[cereta]

AHAHAHAHA yes.

[jadelennox]

THIS.

[cereta]

I read this in breathless anticipation to see if Amy would whiff or knock it out of the park. Wait, wrong metaphor.

Anyway, for once, I have to say, I think Amy's advice is perfect. (1) Daughter and friend are both quite thoroughly of age; (2) pot is legal in a number of places and situations; (3) this is not Reefer Madness, LW; (4) none of your beeswax.

[conuly]

I almost do want LW to call up this woman's mother and tattle on her.

Oh, to be a fly on that wall...!

[lilysea]

Look, unless the marijuana-user has a strong family history of schizophrenia [research shows marijuana can trigger episodes in people with a strong family history of schizophrenia], it's
not any of LW's business...

The main dangers of marijuana for most people are

a) legal complications

b) lung cancer if they smoke it - it's higher in tar than tobacco, so it should be consumed as edibles where ever possible

[cynthia1960]

My wife heard this and said that pot was only criminalized as a way to incarcerate Black people. Legalization has made it possible for white people to extract profit. I see billboards for dispensaries and mobile pot delivery apps all around the South and East SF Bay, and the folks with the capital to support these businesses are white. Oakland has reserved some dispensary licenses for Black people but it isn't enough. People with pot convictions have had to find resources to expunge their records, California didn't just vacate the convictions when recreational pot got legalized. I'd bet there are still not-white folks getting locked up for various weed offenses (outside of operating a vehicle while impaired which is still illegal).

So, yeah, LW Karen, you need to go mind your own business and until you figure out how not to be such a terminal jerk, you don't even deserve an edible to chill the heck out.