Thinking about your "d." point, we clearly have a family into dominance rituals here, and the bride did not play along. She was supposed to go to the dominant family members and dance attendance on them, because they are senior to her and more important, even at her wedding.

If she had a good relationship with her father's side of the family, this wouldn't have happened, but the father's family's culture of hierarchical, structured submission doesn't care about how good her relationships are with family members, only that she is deferential and "respectful" to certain ones because of their greater seniority and importance.