Dear Abby: women need to "loosen up"

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: I would like to suggest that some wives be a little less traditional and inhibited. Lighten up! Be just a little bit more adventurous, open-minded and forward -- nothing excessive, mind you. Variety, after all, is the spice of life. What husband wouldn't enjoy an exceptionally nice surprise every once in awhile? -- WISHFUL THINKING IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR WISHFUL THINKING: Inhibitions can be hard to overcome. However, if YOUR wife is among those you are suggesting loosen up (etc.), you should definitely mention it to her and include your "wish list." But don't be shocked if she gives you one, too.

Comments

[cereta]

For once the comments on this are both funny and astute. They point out that (1)women are not a collective, (b) he might consider TALKING to his wife, and (iii) she might surprise him in ways he's not expecting.

[jadelennox]

Yeah, that's a dude who's asking if he can do it in the butt or if his wife will get a sexy bra, not a dude who wants to experiment with pegging.

[recessional]

Seriously. XD

[cereta]

Indeed.

[kaberett]

FUNNY YOU SHOULD MENTION

[korafox]

I got very confused right around the part where he talks about his wife not being able to relax enough and then realized what he actually meant by "I've never gotten to experience anal sex".

Goodbye, any shreds of sympathy for the situation.

[kaberett]

yeeeeeeeeeeeeeep.

[cereta]

Oh, this response on that letter is priceless, in the sense that I would not pay two cents for it:

But it isn't a shag, that's the point - it is anal. Also, maybe there are things this guy has done for the wife (out of love and devotion for her) in the past that HE didn't want to do - like have children, or go to watch An Officer and a Gentleman, or build a fishpond in the garden...... That is what a good relationship is based upon - one person doing what the other person wants, regardless of their own personal feelings in the matter

Really? REALLY? I mean, ignoring the implied notion that men never really want kids, and only have them to please the wimminfolk (where did that idea grain traction, anyway?), dude watches a movie (that many men have liked, btw) and she's obligated to do something that she at the very least seems to have found uncomfortable? I just...MEN.

[kaberett]

w o w.

[xenacryst]

Yep. Dear Emperor, your lack of cloth is showing. You might want to fix that. And by "fix" I mean ... oh, let your mind wander.

[vass]

"nothing excessive, mind you"

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[redbird]

"Be more adventurous…variety is the spice of life" does not equal "fulfil your husband's sexual fantasies." A woman's idea of variety might well involve partners other than her husband. That man doesn't want an exceptionally nice surprise, he wants an exceptionally nice for him item from his wishlist.

I suspect "nothing excessive, mind you" translates as "but don't stop prioritizing my orgasms over your own" or "other women are cool if he can watch, but anything that he's not there for is too adventurous.

[kaberett]

I note with resignation that he seems much more invested in complaining about her than providing her with a pleasant surprise.

(PERHAPS HE HAS AND I AM BEING AN UNFAIR HARRIDAN.)

[annotated_em]

I think I just sprained my eyeballs with how hard I rolled them.

[minoanmiss]

Yeah, mine nearly fell out.