Dear LW: the issue here is not "Husband is neurodiverse". The problem is "I feel like husband is making my life hell and there's nothing I can do about it."
Address the actual problem.
Any neurodiverse person has spent their whole life being told "The problem here is you being who you are, we just need to fix that" while neurotypical people fail to listen to their actual suggestions for how to make things better for all of you, because the neurotypical people think they have identified the problem.
Try pretending he's not "neurodiverse" and therefore needs fixed, he's just a person who you love but is doing things you don't like, but you want to listen to him to understand why and work with him to fix them in a way that works for you both. You might be surprised!
If the problem is not specific things that are happening, it's just that you don't like him anymore, I promise that if you don't like him as is, you won't suddenly like him medicated either.
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Address the actual problem.
Any neurodiverse person has spent their whole life being told "The problem here is you being who you are, we just need to fix that" while neurotypical people fail to listen to their actual suggestions for how to make things better for all of you, because the neurotypical people think they have identified the problem.
Try pretending he's not "neurodiverse" and therefore needs fixed, he's just a person who you love but is doing things you don't like, but you want to listen to him to understand why and work with him to fix them in a way that works for you both. You might be surprised!
If the problem is not specific things that are happening, it's just that you don't like him anymore, I promise that if you don't like him as is, you won't suddenly like him medicated either.