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agonyaunt2021-07-21 10:17 pm
colorwheel) wrote in agonyaunt2021-07-21 10:17 pm
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Q. Too old for love? I am 86 and I may be bisexual. I would like to be gay but am I too old for anybody who would take me on? Is my age too late for friendship or other?
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A: Congratulations on having this revelation about yourself and exploring the idea of living a life that would make you happier. You can be definitely (not “may be”) bisexual and definitely gay even if you don’t find a partner. But I think maybe you can find one! Older people get into relationships all the time. In my experience, they actually seem to move pretty quickly—maybe because of a sense of having limited time left, or maybe because once you get to a certain age, you just know what you want. Why don’t you start poking around on Our Time, the dating website for older adults? There are, of course, no guarantees for anyone of any age or sexual orientation when it comes to meeting someone who’s a good fit, but I think you’ll regret it if you don’t try.
(prudence, july 20, 2021)
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A: Congratulations on having this revelation about yourself and exploring the idea of living a life that would make you happier. You can be definitely (not “may be”) bisexual and definitely gay even if you don’t find a partner. But I think maybe you can find one! Older people get into relationships all the time. In my experience, they actually seem to move pretty quickly—maybe because of a sense of having limited time left, or maybe because once you get to a certain age, you just know what you want. Why don’t you start poking around on Our Time, the dating website for older adults? There are, of course, no guarantees for anyone of any age or sexual orientation when it comes to meeting someone who’s a good fit, but I think you’ll regret it if you don’t try.
(prudence, july 20, 2021)
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i'm also really happy that the answer is positive about finding love in old age.
i meant positive as opposed to negative, not as in definite -- but actually, definite works too, because i like that the answer is definite that it's POSSIBLE. not that it will necessarily happen for any specific person seeking it, but that it always could.
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(Also, good answer.)
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LW you are my absolute fave and I love you.
(Use protection, though!)
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Excuse me while I cheer for bi grandpa (grandma?) and scream into a pillow over the Reagab administration's handling of the AIDs pandemic.
I hope this LW finds both friendship and romance despite never having the chance to meet so many, many people who would have welcomed them into the society of queer elders.