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[conuly]

Dear Amy: My niece is angry at a few members of our family. We offered our apologies, but they were rejected.

My daughter is getting married, and that’s making things awkward.

I recently learned that my niece moved into her first house.

I texted her congratulations and asked for her mailing address, in order to send the invitation. She responded: “Please send it to my father’s house, as it’s just easier.”

Easier than receiving mail at her own house?

She’s made it clear that she wants to stay angry.

I assumed that including her in the family event might begin to heal bad feelings. Now I’m just annoyed.

I’m supposed to invite someone to a wedding that won’t tell me where she lives?

– Offended

Dear Offended: You sound like a mature person, but you might be too willing to chalk your niece’s response up to a family rift, rather than a simple and truthful instruction.

I can think of many reasons why a person who is in a new home might not be confident about her mail service, but your niece’s refusal to communicate about the recent dust-up in your family is bound to make you wonder.

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Comments

[ambyr]

It’s fascinating that it never occurs to LW that she could, in fact, just…not invite this person who shows every evidence of not wanting contact with her, and is thus unlikely to want to attend this wedding.