My mom told me she backed out at the clinic when it didn't meet her standards for cleanliness. (Fair.)

It's something you deal with. It's not necessarily the big huge horrible traumatizing thing LW a is making it out to be. (I was also an older teenager when she shared this information: so, there is a time and a place for everything.)

She definitely needs to get the entire heck away from her husband, though, because HOLY WOW, BATMAN. She may be happier and a better parent if husband has primary custody.