Coming in as someone whose daughter's girlfriend was involved with a criminal situation (not murder! but sexual assault, to a degree that is still not and probably never will be entirely clear to me) I came down pretty actively on, "I know you care about her, but she's involved in some serious stuff and I don't think she is being very kind to you or treating you the way I want a partner to treat you."
It's been a few years now, and I'm still around and the girlfriend is a thing of the past, so.
Honestly, if either of my kids had a romantic partner who had just plead guilty in a criminal case involving physical violence, I would be having some serious discussion with the kid about whether this was really a kind of trouble they want in their life. Sometimes we have to turn away from someone we care about to protect our own health and safety.
But if the girlfriend is going to prison here in the next while...I'd also just wait it out, as much as possible (though I would be unlikely to welcome the girlfriend in my home). This is a problem that is likely to resolve itself in the next couple of years.
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It's been a few years now, and I'm still around and the girlfriend is a thing of the past, so.
Honestly, if either of my kids had a romantic partner who had just plead guilty in a criminal case involving physical violence, I would be having some serious discussion with the kid about whether this was really a kind of trouble they want in their life. Sometimes we have to turn away from someone we care about to protect our own health and safety.
But if the girlfriend is going to prison here in the next while...I'd also just wait it out, as much as possible (though I would be unlikely to welcome the girlfriend in my home). This is a problem that is likely to resolve itself in the next couple of years.