Cindy is engaged now, and Allison says that when Cindy has children, she worries I will favor them over her own.
Easy peasy: Allison, have an affair with Cindy’s fiancé and have children with him. Now you’re guaranteed Mom will treat them exactly the way she treats the kids with Andy! /s
It sounds like the grandparents are being good to the kids, and kids generally go along with whatever parents tell them. If it’s, “We’re seeing grandma and grandpa on Christmas Eve and having our family Christmas in the morning,” or vice versa, they’re not really going to care. If Allison is ranting in front of the kids, “I wanted to have grandparents at this time and it’s no fair they’re going to Cindy’s!” then that’s what’s going to make them feel left out.
Also, everyone needs to work out what to tell the kids if they ask about it. As little ones, all they need to know is that mom and dad did something that hurt Aunt Cindy’s feelings a lot so it’s hard for her to be around them. But by the time they’re young teenagers and understand relationships, someone needs to tell them before they find out via grapevine. And yeah, they’ll probably hate Mom and dad for a while for being so shitty. Congratulations, more consequences.
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Easy peasy: Allison, have an affair with Cindy’s fiancé and have children with him. Now you’re guaranteed Mom will treat them exactly the way she treats the kids with Andy! /s
It sounds like the grandparents are being good to the kids, and kids generally go along with whatever parents tell them. If it’s, “We’re seeing grandma and grandpa on Christmas Eve and having our family Christmas in the morning,” or vice versa, they’re not really going to care. If Allison is ranting in front of the kids, “I wanted to have grandparents at this time and it’s no fair they’re going to Cindy’s!” then that’s what’s going to make them feel left out.
Also, everyone needs to work out what to tell the kids if they ask about it. As little ones, all they need to know is that mom and dad did something that hurt Aunt Cindy’s feelings a lot so it’s hard for her to be around them. But by the time they’re young teenagers and understand relationships, someone needs to tell them before they find out via grapevine. And yeah, they’ll probably hate Mom and dad for a while for being so shitty. Congratulations, more consequences.