Ask Amy: Three years after the breakup

[movingfinger]

Dear Amy: I am struggling with heartbreak from three years ago.

Last night, I dreamed about her, where she professed her love for me again. I woke up feeling worse than ever.

Long story short, her parents broke us up because they did not approve of a same-sex relationship (neither did my parents).

I put it all on the line fighting for our love, but she didn't, after her parents broke her phone, threatened to send her to a psych ward and left her locked up in her house.

I waited for more than a year. Then I realized that she had regained access to Facebook and had a new phone, and yet no message to me!

I never got closure, and I was left with a broken heart and long-lasting emotional hurt. I really want to know how someone can do this after saying they love you and want to marry you.

I've thought so many times of messaging her, but I don't know what to do.

Emotionally Destroyed

Emotionally Destroyed: Please do message her. You may not hear what you want to hear, but knowing where she stands should help to provide the closure you seek.

You both had the odds stacked against you, and I agree that this is heartbreaking.

Comments

[laurajv]

This is one of those times when I wish the LW had written to an entirely different, very specific columnist. I feel like Daniel Ortberg would have given much more sensitive and good advice.

[redbird]

And Captain Awkward would have had some useful things to say about why "closure" is either a myth or a thing you give yourself, and "I want closure" so often means "I want a chance to reopen this door (or keep it open)."