Yes, this. LW knew her ex was in a dangerous, abusive situation, has no idea how far that escalated while she was out of the loop, and what LW is concerned about is "closure"?! And she seems super resentful of her ex, despite clear evidence that the breakup wasn't the ex's choice at all! Just... wow. (In some breakups there are no villains, but in this one... if LW wants a target for that resentment and bitterness, the parents are right there! Being villainous!)

And yeah, social media presence is no reason to assume the danger's over. If LW really cared so much, she'd be asking "how can I contact my ex stealthily to see if she's ok or needs help getting out?" not "how can I guilt-trip my ex for the way her family forcibly separated us?"