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My son is in fifth grade and about to start middle school. He is a great kid all around, and in terms of school he is dutiful, listens well, is responsible, does his homework, has great friends, and generally does well and gets good grades. He prefers math and science at school over reading and writing, but he does read nightly at home. My question is this: His handwriting and spelling are atrocious. Do I need to spend some time having him work on these things this summer before he starts middle school? His teachers seem to know what he’s saying in spite of the bad handwriting and spelling (analisses for analysis, for example). But I look at his handwriting and spelling myself and shudder. He and I have had conversations about it over the years, but have never made any real concerted effort on either of these fronts since he’s doing well. And with other younger kids to take care of at home, I haven’t had the bandwidth to deal, but maybe it’s time. I’d love your thoughts.
—Trying to Weigh What Matters
Oh, your son reminds me of one of my favorite student writers of all time—he was inventive, and his stories had great structure … and his spelling was 100 percent phonetic. One time he wrote a story about the Revalooshunary War.
As for whether you should work on his spelling and handwriting over the summer, I think it depends. I’m a single mom of twin 4.5-year-olds, one of whom has Down syndrome, and so when you say you don’t have the bandwidth, I get it. Since becoming a mom myself, I’ve relaxed quite a bit my expectations of the academic tasks parents should pursue with their kids. I used to say parents should read with their kids for 20 minutes every night; now I sometimes blow off reading my kids a bedtime story! There are nights when getting their teeth brushed is all I can manage.
Also, it’s going to depend on your son’s middle school environment. Do they use computers for writing tasks? If so, well, that’s what readable fonts and spellcheck are for!
If not, yes, you could try to work with him on it. Here’s my suggestion: Don’t make him wrong. Tell him the way he’s doing it is OK, and you want him to have another tool for his belt. I used to be a strict prescriptive grammarian—there were rules we all must follow; things were correct or incorrect. After reading a lot of books and hearing people’s stories over the last 15 years, my relationship to grammar has changed. I still love studying it and understanding it, but grammar rules are classist, elitist, and ableist. In most instances, as long as you’re getting your point across to your audience, what’s the harm in nonstandard language (or spelling or handwriting)?
That being said, code-switching is a valuable skill, and knowing politically dominant English is an asset. So now I don’t correct my students’ grammar; instead, I tell them, “That’s how you’d say it with your friends, but in this argumentative essay, you need to write it this way.” With your son, you could say, “That’s how you’d write your grocery list—as long as you can read it, who cares? But let’s pretend you’re writing a letter to your congressperson,” and have him practice writing in his best handwriting and using the dictionary to look up the spellings of words.
But again, if it feels like too much for you, just enjoy your summer, and bring it up with his teachers at the beginning of the year. Let them know his specific struggles, and ask them to help. That’s what they’re there for.
—Ms. Scott
—Trying to Weigh What Matters
Oh, your son reminds me of one of my favorite student writers of all time—he was inventive, and his stories had great structure … and his spelling was 100 percent phonetic. One time he wrote a story about the Revalooshunary War.
As for whether you should work on his spelling and handwriting over the summer, I think it depends. I’m a single mom of twin 4.5-year-olds, one of whom has Down syndrome, and so when you say you don’t have the bandwidth, I get it. Since becoming a mom myself, I’ve relaxed quite a bit my expectations of the academic tasks parents should pursue with their kids. I used to say parents should read with their kids for 20 minutes every night; now I sometimes blow off reading my kids a bedtime story! There are nights when getting their teeth brushed is all I can manage.
Also, it’s going to depend on your son’s middle school environment. Do they use computers for writing tasks? If so, well, that’s what readable fonts and spellcheck are for!
If not, yes, you could try to work with him on it. Here’s my suggestion: Don’t make him wrong. Tell him the way he’s doing it is OK, and you want him to have another tool for his belt. I used to be a strict prescriptive grammarian—there were rules we all must follow; things were correct or incorrect. After reading a lot of books and hearing people’s stories over the last 15 years, my relationship to grammar has changed. I still love studying it and understanding it, but grammar rules are classist, elitist, and ableist. In most instances, as long as you’re getting your point across to your audience, what’s the harm in nonstandard language (or spelling or handwriting)?
That being said, code-switching is a valuable skill, and knowing politically dominant English is an asset. So now I don’t correct my students’ grammar; instead, I tell them, “That’s how you’d say it with your friends, but in this argumentative essay, you need to write it this way.” With your son, you could say, “That’s how you’d write your grocery list—as long as you can read it, who cares? But let’s pretend you’re writing a letter to your congressperson,” and have him practice writing in his best handwriting and using the dictionary to look up the spellings of words.
But again, if it feels like too much for you, just enjoy your summer, and bring it up with his teachers at the beginning of the year. Let them know his specific struggles, and ask them to help. That’s what they’re there for.
—Ms. Scott
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First, bad spelling plus bad handwriting in a kid this age? Has he been evaluated for a learning disability such as dysgraphia? Maybe it's just my bias talking, but by middle school I'd definitely check it out if there's a pernicious lack of improvement in a core area like this.
Secondly, good job Ms. Scott in learning the difference between "this is wrong" and "this isn't the way we say it in a formal essay", but that doesn't mean that "grammar rules are elitist". All dialects have grammar rules. All of them! It's just a. they don't always match up with the standard dialect and b. people have weird ideas about grammar that involve a lot of shibboleths (and outright myths) about style rather than syntax.
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Yeah, my first thought was something like Dyspraxia.
And a diagnosis could lead to an IEP = the school may have to provide a classroom aide so he could get more intensive help.
A teacher stretched trying to cover 25 or 30 kids may not be able to give him the intensive help that he needs.
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If he needs an IEP, now is a really good time to get it in place!
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My atrocious handwriting in 4th grade resulted in me being allowed to submit anything long-form typed up. Typing and the proper use of spell checkers/dictionaries to confirm the actual spelling of the word you know and intend will serve this kid very well in the future.
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If he was misspelling first-hand grade words, or having trouble with his letters, maybe have him evaluated or do extra work But if your first example is a good phonetic rendering of a fairly advanced Greek word, and his teachers aren't worried, I think you can probably let it slide, unless his dream is to be a spelling bee champ.
And if both you, he, and his teacher can read his writing, it's good enough for a computer age.
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(So says somebody who shelled out thousands for a dyslexia diagnosis because the schools are shitty about dyslexia. But we did do the public school route first.)
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If it's causing them distress because it's something *they* want to be able to do better, or it's something that's reasonably likely to cause much bigger difficulties down the road, then it's definitely worth doing whatever you can.
But misspelling 'analysis' as a ten-year-old is neither of those things.
And sometimes it's actually more worthwhile to let the kid be less than gifted at something, and teach them that it's not a disaster or a disease to be bad at some things sometimes.
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this made me happy.
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We've been using Apples and Pears, which is designed for children with learning disabilities (or, as the UK calls them, "learning differences") and it has done wonders for my dyslexic niece's spelling.
For kids who probably don't have a learning disability but who just need a little extra push, I've heard great things about Megawords.
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