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the sun and the moon and the stars ([personal profile] eleanorjane) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt 2018-09-15 03:22 pm (UTC)

My version of Annie's predictably shitty response:
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Dear LW, yes, you were wrong.

Your friend Lisa was dissatisfied with her appearance enough to have painful surgery to change it. Now you are posting ongoing reminders of how she used to look, and disregarding her repeated requests to a) not do that any more and b) take down what you've already posted.

Are you really surprised she's unhappy? Imagine if there was a quality about yourself that you'd taken pains to change, and now Lisa was repeatedly posting things that reminded everyone you used to have that quality, and when it upset you she'd innocently pose the defense that no, no, this was all about *her* happy memories.

You saying you "never meant to make her feel bad" is an explanation, not an excuse, and it *certainly* doesn't excuse you from not taking them down after the fact. "I never meant to make you feel bad" isn't a license to ignore her actual request and keep going on your merry way. No wonder she's pissed at you, LW; you've clearly demonstrated that your memories of happiness are more important to you than her current happiness.

Fuck's sake, LW, have some fucking compassion. It sounds a lot like you're getting some sort of saboteur-y satisfaction out of drawing attention to Lisa's former appearance in a semi-public arena. Stop being a fucking jerk, take down the pictures, and I dunno, maybe level the playing field by posting some subjectively unflattering pix of yourself instead next TBT.

Also, apologise.

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