Dear Abby: Couple Wants out of Sister-in-Law's Wedding Party

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been asked to be in his sister's wedding. We said yes, mostly out of obligation.

There will be three married couples in the procession. I recently learned that my sister-in-law plans to have the couples split up and walk with others. I think it's extremely weird and rude, so much so that we want to back out. Neither of us cares to be in a memory book with us posing with other people. It's not that either of us is jealous; we have been married for 24 years. What do you think? -- FEELING OBLIGATED IN THE EAST

DEAR FEELING OBLIGATED: I think that before you take offense and back out, you should ask your sister-in-law why she wants to do this. It could be something as simple as variations in the height of the participants and not weird or rude. Between you and me, unless you and your husband feel so strongly about this that you are willing to create a rift in the family, you should go along with his sister's fantasy of her perfect day.

Comments

[cereta]

Honestly, the things people will get worked up about never cease to amaze me. Walking down the aisle takes two minutes, and will be one picture of many, in endless permutations, some of which I am sure will involve the LW and her husband together. Hells, the last wedding I was in, my spouse didn't even make it to.

[amireal]

I was gonna say, walking down the aisle TOGETHER doesn't guarantee that LW and spouse would be together in all pics either.

[minoanmiss]

Why are American weddings?

[cereta]

Honestly, I think the LW and her husband just don't want to be in the wedding, and are looking for some way to pin it on the bride.

[tielan]

She said yes. Time to suck it up and smile and perhaps never look at the photos again?