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[conuly]

Dear Prudence,

I just got married, and while the day was beautiful, my family left me feeling heartbroken. I have a strained relationship with my younger sister. She left her diabetic cat with our parents, and when they had to suddenly leave town, I stepped in to care for it for two weeks.

At our wedding after-party, my husband gently suggested she thank me. Instead, she stormed off, blocked me on social media, and refused to see me for the rest of the trip. When I turned to my parents for support, they sided with her, saying she spent her own time and money to attend the wedding and telling me to “drop the drama” and “be an adult.” I’m left feeling dismissed and deeply hurt, wondering how to move forward from this.

—Bride Without a Break

Dear Bride,

The person I feel the worst for in this story is the poor diabetic cat who has no clue it’s at the center of such drama. Your sister sounds like a real pill, your parents shouldn’t be taking sides, and your husband chose the absolute wrong time to address it. Either he didn’t do so as “gently” as you think, or—and my money’s on this one—there was something much bigger upsetting your sister. Did she take a lot of time and/or spend a lot of money to go to the wedding, even though you have a strained relationship? Perhaps that was an olive branch of sorts, and she was expecting a little gratitude instead of a scolding. Send her a thank you card for coming and try to leave the situation alone for now, so you can both cool off. Good news—you have a new husband and presumably a whole lot of wedding photos to enjoy in the meantime.

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Comments

[conuly]

I'm so confused by this timeline. Was the catsitting concurrent with the wedding? Why did the parents suddenly have to leave town during LW's wedding, and why isn't LW more concerned about this?

At any rate, LW has some decisions to make. If they want to keep Sister in their life, they probably do need to apologize. If this story is at all accurate as reported then they shouldn't have to, they're not in the wrong - but talk, as they say, is cheap.

On the other hand, maybe it's best if they take a very long break from all these people, Sis, Mom, and Dad together.

[ashbet]

I think it was before the wedding, and LW had probably been stewing about not being thanked, which is why the husband brought it up (really poor timing, though!)

[lethe1]

Agreed.

[brigid]

There's either a lot of missing information or it's AI.

[princessofgeeks]

This is not about the cat. Tip of the iceberg here.

[mrissa]

So many pieces of missing information here. We are not even close to a complete story. I feel like we're 4-6 reveals from the whole thing, at this rate.