Yes, back when I was well enough to work I would dread saying "no thanks" to workplace cake [the reason, which I didn't usually share, was because I have non-celiac gluten intolerance, and for me gluten = increased fatigue, increased migraine and increased muscle and joint pain].

because that would then trigger a cascade of remarks from my coworkers about how "good" I was being avoiding cake, and how bad *they* felt for eating cake.

And its like, nope, this has NOTHING to do with weight, I promise I am not judging what anyone else is eating, can't a fat woman just pass up cake without everyone having to start doing a virtue-signalling dance at her.

The same thing happened if I passed up sugary lollies (again, because lots of sugar at once = migraine trigger for me.)

In hindsight, maybe I should have just accepted the damn cake/lollies and then surreptitiously chucked it in the rubbish bin...