LW, I sympathize with you. I spent years thinking about each of my major breakups, both friend and romantic. There's someone in my head who elevated themself to one of the Negative Voices In My Head even though I'm never going to speak to them IRL ever again.
And I can tell you, as my fellow commenter said, "Lobbing truth bombs and then running away never works as well as you'd think it ought to. You don't actually feel better after doing it." That's a narrative convention. Life doesn't resolve so neatly.
Don't contact your ex. Improve your dialogue with yourself. It may take years but you will [1] work your way through it. I've worked my way through some of my breakups. We shall work on ourselves in parallel
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LW, I sympathize with you. I spent years thinking about each of my major breakups, both friend and romantic. There's someone in my head who elevated themself to one of the Negative Voices In My Head even though I'm never going to speak to them IRL ever again.
And I can tell you, as my fellow commenter said, "Lobbing truth bombs and then running away never works as well as you'd think it ought to. You don't actually feel better after doing it." That's a narrative convention. Life doesn't resolve so neatly.
Don't contact your ex. Improve your dialogue with yourself. It may take years but you will [1] work your way through it. I've worked my way through some of my breakups. We shall work on ourselves in parallel
[1] probably, maybe, hopefully. I'm not psychic.