1. It's well-known that neurodivergent people tend to associate with - and marry! - other neurodivergent people. LW is autistic, odds are good that Husband is also autistic, or has ADHD, or at any rate is part of the broader spectrum.
It's also well-known that, on the whole, we're not a group of people best known for good time-management skills.
With that said, Husband is being more than a bit of an asshole. He's drinking coffee while LW is getting everything ready? LW needs to just leave on time, with or without him. (And see if they can push as much of the getting ready stuff to the night before, just to make him do it.)
2. Anxiety is hereditary. LW had a husband with anxiety, his parents have untreated anxiety, LW needs to figure this out because it's not impossible the kid will have anxiety too!
As for dealing with the inlaws, many commenters at Slate pointed out that, if nothing else, LW probably ought to buy the tickets in advance just to cut off that line of questioning. Fair enough.
But otherwise, yeah, I'd limit the variety of things to do with Inlaws - once a month dinner at LW's house would be repetitive and controlled, so there's less for the freeform anxiety to grab onto.
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It's also well-known that, on the whole, we're not a group of people best known for good time-management skills.
With that said, Husband is being more than a bit of an asshole. He's drinking coffee while LW is getting everything ready? LW needs to just leave on time, with or without him. (And see if they can push as much of the getting ready stuff to the night before, just to make him do it.)
2. Anxiety is hereditary. LW had a husband with anxiety, his parents have untreated anxiety, LW needs to figure this out because it's not impossible the kid will have anxiety too!
As for dealing with the inlaws, many commenters at Slate pointed out that, if nothing else, LW probably ought to buy the tickets in advance just to cut off that line of questioning. Fair enough.
But otherwise, yeah, I'd limit the variety of things to do with Inlaws - once a month dinner at LW's house would be repetitive and controlled, so there's less for the freeform anxiety to grab onto.