I really don't like the idea of someone ordering someone else to end a friendship.
I have, though, over the years, known a lot of guys who sincerely thought that they had to chop parts of their lives and/or personalities off to maintain relationships. Cases where the girlfriend disapproves of a particular hobby (usually tabletop RPGs back in the 1990s) or isn't interested in anyone who isn't a practicing Christian, things like that.
In the early 1990s, I got something like $80 worth of RPG books for about $20 from a guy who was giving up playing because his new girlfriend said he had to stop and get rid of all his stuff.
People do really weird things to hold onto relationships that they maybe ought to be thinking hard about getting out of.
A slightly different situation-- I had a male friend who was all set to give up RPGs permanently because he thought his fiancee might disapprove. He didn't ask her, and he'd been spending several hours a week playing while he was in grad school. She knew he had and simply assumed that they'd find a way for him to keep playing after they married and he moved to the state where she lived (she had a job that could support both of them; he had just finished grad school).
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I have, though, over the years, known a lot of guys who sincerely thought that they had to chop parts of their lives and/or personalities off to maintain relationships. Cases where the girlfriend disapproves of a particular hobby (usually tabletop RPGs back in the 1990s) or isn't interested in anyone who isn't a practicing Christian, things like that.
In the early 1990s, I got something like $80 worth of RPG books for about $20 from a guy who was giving up playing because his new girlfriend said he had to stop and get rid of all his stuff.
People do really weird things to hold onto relationships that they maybe ought to be thinking hard about getting out of.
A slightly different situation-- I had a male friend who was all set to give up RPGs permanently because he thought his fiancee might disapprove. He didn't ask her, and he'd been spending several hours a week playing while he was in grad school. She knew he had and simply assumed that they'd find a way for him to keep playing after they married and he moved to the state where she lived (she had a job that could support both of them; he had just finished grad school).