she absolutely should have been but by then LW knew she wouldn't, which kind of allows her to hold LW and his firepit hostage using her and her children's bad behavior.
Exactly. And that behaviour and attitude is unacceptable to me. I've never understood that concept, that people should be forced into giving up things they enjoy, just so others can continue to behave badly around them.
I think it was not a good idea to use his firepit around her knowing how terribly she and her children behave.
I do think LW called GF's bluff here a bit, but I also think it was well within their right to do so. The firepit was (presumably) monitored, so it would be safe if everyone behaved appropriately around it. LW told GF's kid several times not to throw trash into the fire, with good reason. Other commenters have already covered why it's a bad idea to throw anything in (from toxic fumes, to spreading sparks and embers, to literal explosions if the trash was aerosol cans). We don't know what piece of trash prompted LW to grab GF's kid's hand, but LW should not have had to do it in the first place. LW would have been held responsible if anyone got injured due to the kid's actions, even though GF is responsible for parenting her children.
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Exactly. And that behaviour and attitude is unacceptable to me. I've never understood that concept, that people should be forced into giving up things they enjoy, just so others can continue to behave badly around them.
I think it was not a good idea to use his firepit around her knowing how terribly she and her children behave.
I do think LW called GF's bluff here a bit, but I also think it was well within their right to do so. The firepit was (presumably) monitored, so it would be safe if everyone behaved appropriately around it. LW told GF's kid several times not to throw trash into the fire, with good reason. Other commenters have already covered why it's a bad idea to throw anything in (from toxic fumes, to spreading sparks and embers, to literal explosions if the trash was aerosol cans). We don't know what piece of trash prompted LW to grab GF's kid's hand, but LW should not have had to do it in the first place. LW would have been held responsible if anyone got injured due to the kid's actions, even though GF is responsible for parenting her children.