"Mother, I love you, and I've been fond of Stepdad in the past, but I can't be silent around his open misogyny. I would love to continue to see you, but I won't visit your home while he's there, unless you speak to him about it. Let's replace my visits to your home with a margarita date every weekend at Border Cafe, shall we?"
This actually can work. When I told my partner that I refused to be in a room with his dad's Fox News goading without arguing back, he talked to his dad, and his dad laid off the politics in my presence.
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"Mother, I love you, and I've been fond of Stepdad in the past, but I can't be silent around his open misogyny. I would love to continue to see you, but I won't visit your home while he's there, unless you speak to him about it. Let's replace my visits to your home with a margarita date every weekend at Border Cafe, shall we?"
This actually can work. When I told my partner that I refused to be in a room with his dad's Fox News goading without arguing back, he talked to his dad, and his dad laid off the politics in my presence.