Yes, more Harriette. I really need to do a thorough readthrough of Prudie soon.
As a rule, I kind of hate the, "Just ignore them and they'll stop," because (a) it puts the onus on the person having unpleasant things said to them/being bullied (to give a spectrum), and (b) it almost never works. It can just as easily lead to escalation.
My advice is a lot harder, but for what it's worth:
This may depend on your relationship with your mother, and hers with him, but consider walking away, literally. Not from the whole relationship. But when he starts saying these things, get up and leave the room. Don't say anything but maybe an "excuse me," don't engage. Just leave. If he follows, then it's time to leave the house. Say good-bye to your mother, but leave. And then work on finding ways to spend time with your mother away from him if at all possible.
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As a rule, I kind of hate the, "Just ignore them and they'll stop," because (a) it puts the onus on the person having unpleasant things said to them/being bullied (to give a spectrum), and (b) it almost never works. It can just as easily lead to escalation.
My advice is a lot harder, but for what it's worth:
This may depend on your relationship with your mother, and hers with him, but consider walking away, literally. Not from the whole relationship. But when he starts saying these things, get up and leave the room. Don't say anything but maybe an "excuse me," don't engage. Just leave. If he follows, then it's time to leave the house. Say good-bye to your mother, but leave. And then work on finding ways to spend time with your mother away from him if at all possible.