Right. I exchange texts with platonic friends that say things like, "Love you, buddy" and "you're amazing" and nobody thinks I'm secretly carrying on torrid affairs with them, but I will also put your water glass in the dishwasher if you leave it unattended and empty for too long, I do all sorts of things that might make me the wrong partner for a particular hypothetical person. This is for actually sorting out between them, not for submitting to impartial arbitration.