The thing is, if someone's feeling jealous or uncomfortable, that in and of itself isn't A Wrong Thing. You have a right to your discomfort.

But! The LW's therapist is just one person, and doesn't have the right to unilaterally decide things for both partners.

So if LW feels it's cheating emotionally, and isn't being heard, then she needs to decide what she wants to do about it. *Is* it worth cutting him off? Is it worth ending the marriage over? Is he still a good partner other than this issue? If so, does it outweigh everything else? I wouldn't say so, but I'm not jealous in this way, and I'm not feeling shut out in this way.