Does anyone else want to tell this guy to grow up, or am I just an asshole? Maybe I'm reminded a bit too much of men I've dated who refused to take any responsibility for their own life decisions or personal deficiencies.

Also, I have a friend who has been going by her middle name since high school; she initially planned to swap her first and middle names after getting married, but between realizing the first/middle swap would have to go through probate court and the start of the pandemic, she just...never got around to it. This is like her legal name being Jane Sarah Jones but her frequently going by Sarah Smith. She has not had ANY issues with this - she has government documents that show her middle name is Sarah and a marriage certificate showing Jane Jones is married to John Smith, and there's never been a time where that was insufficient to prove identity.