Oh, yes, that too! But I hope she is saying no clearly and not using more jokey language! Sorry, I was just looking at the John von Neumann comment as being typical--mea culpa.

I hope she can raise the subject pro-actively, leading with "I am not going to have another child, with you or anyone, and I want you to stop asking about that," and ask him what he wants to do. The good-friends-already tenor of the relationship may have them both averse to confronting the incompatibilities.