"[W]e were having this extremely hypothetical conversation" about a very serious subject which he has raised MORE THAN ONCE. He wants to have a child with her.
I think that what her long-time friend heard was "you are not smart enough for me to have a baby with," and I do think that was a really tactless and oddly deflecting thing to say when "no, I don't want another child" is right there and more honest and relevant to the relationship.
LW needs to work on her communication skills. I sympathize with "people are hard" but she is going to blow more relationships up if she cannot learn to listen to what someone is saying, with words, to her, when it does not align with what she wants or doesn't want. It sounds like this man knows her well and he is being clear about his wants, but she doesn't listen.
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I think that what her long-time friend heard was "you are not smart enough for me to have a baby with," and I do think that was a really tactless and oddly deflecting thing to say when "no, I don't want another child" is right there and more honest and relevant to the relationship.
LW needs to work on her communication skills. I sympathize with "people are hard" but she is going to blow more relationships up if she cannot learn to listen to what someone is saying, with words, to her, when it does not align with what she wants or doesn't want. It sounds like this man knows her well and he is being clear about his wants, but she doesn't listen.