This is something that happened to me and my wife recently. We had visited and had a small argument with her father about our car and what he preferred vs what we preferred. I had ended the argument by saying that we were adults and the item was no longer up for discussion. We left the next day and he informed his wife that we were going to die on our way home. She cried for the 3.5 hrs it took us to get home. We had called to say we had arrived and got a sob ing and hysterical woman who I formed us we could have died.
My wife had to tell her that if she had gotten that hysterical that perhaps she needed to seek help. That she needed to talk with someone who might help her navigate these big feelings. And that she should maybe also talk to someone about how her father manipulates those feelings to get her to do what she wants (be hysterical for several hours)
It is the only time she has stood up to her parents. She was 48 when she did it. And they have never spoken about it again.
If LW doesn't stand up for herself now she will have them do this all her life. They might do it anyway, but she doesn't have to be a willing participant. She can hang up the phone and they can make each other anxious on their own.
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My wife had to tell her that if she had gotten that hysterical that perhaps she needed to seek help. That she needed to talk with someone who might help her navigate these big feelings. And that she should maybe also talk to someone about how her father manipulates those feelings to get her to do what she wants (be hysterical for several hours)
It is the only time she has stood up to her parents. She was 48 when she did it. And they have never spoken about it again.
If LW doesn't stand up for herself now she will have them do this all her life. They might do it anyway, but she doesn't have to be a willing participant. She can hang up the phone and they can make each other anxious on their own.