1. I have a few concerns here. First of all is the fact that this is the only person LW has ever dated. As a rule, I would advise anybody to date around a little bit more before they get married... or at least date a little longer first. This isn't normally something I'd say to people in their 30s, but let's look at the other concerns: she's already lost a friend over this, and his family does not appear to like her. It's that last one that really gave me pause.
"I don’t get to attend his family holidays, as I’m not Jewish."
I have attended religious holidays in an Orthodox home and I wasn't even the person invited. My sister (also not Jewish) was invited and she dragged me along, a habit she only started to kick after she had children. And this woman can't go to holidays with her boyfriend until she converts? And he's telling her that this is normal, everything is fine? This is not normal. And yes, you can be married to somebody whose family is very cold to you... but it's not fun, especially if your partner doesn't admit that there's a problem.
As for converting, LW should really ask herself if she'd be okay converting if her boyfriend dropped dead tomorrow. Because if the answer is "no" then she really should reconsider.
2. LW2, I'd seriously recommend that you two have some couples counseling before you make any real commitments in this relationship, if you choose to rekindle it at all. Somebody who was firmly on the conversion train two years ago is unlikely to have completely changed her opinions today.
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"I don’t get to attend his family holidays, as I’m not Jewish."
I have attended religious holidays in an Orthodox home and I wasn't even the person invited. My sister (also not Jewish) was invited and she dragged me along, a habit she only started to kick after she had children. And this woman can't go to holidays with her boyfriend until she converts? And he's telling her that this is normal, everything is fine? This is not normal. And yes, you can be married to somebody whose family is very cold to you... but it's not fun, especially if your partner doesn't admit that there's a problem.
As for converting, LW should really ask herself if she'd be okay converting if her boyfriend dropped dead tomorrow. Because if the answer is "no" then she really should reconsider.
2. LW2, I'd seriously recommend that you two have some couples counseling before you make any real commitments in this relationship, if you choose to rekindle it at all. Somebody who was firmly on the conversion train two years ago is unlikely to have completely changed her opinions today.