1. "...wants us to work on fixing things..." There is no "us" here needing to "work on fixing things." It's him. It is 100%, entirely him.
2. He's wrong about buying cheap flooring. Smart money knows you buy the good stuff, so it's less likely to take damage (waste materials=$) during installation and so you don't have to rip it out and do it over sooner rather than later. If he's the cheap-fix type, or the type to bitch about what actual plumbers cost, he's going to be a pain to deal with about maintenance, repairs, and improvements.
3. She should take that spreadsheet to a lawyer with an estimate (on the generous, unforgiving side) of how much time she has put into the renovation. At the very least, if she decides to get back together, she will be in a way to be reimbursed, with appreciation/interest, as part of the prenup she's going to negotiate with Mr. Scorekeeper. And get that ring appraised, if only for insurance! Most likely, it's worth the weight of the gold, unless the rock is truly spectacular---and if it's an old-style cut, the rock might not even be valued highly!
But this guy's not a keeper. I suspect there have been other things that should have tipped her off, but she wanted it to work out so she looked away.
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2. He's wrong about buying cheap flooring. Smart money knows you buy the good stuff, so it's less likely to take damage (waste materials=$) during installation and so you don't have to rip it out and do it over sooner rather than later. If he's the cheap-fix type, or the type to bitch about what actual plumbers cost, he's going to be a pain to deal with about maintenance, repairs, and improvements.
3. She should take that spreadsheet to a lawyer with an estimate (on the generous, unforgiving side) of how much time she has put into the renovation. At the very least, if she decides to get back together, she will be in a way to be reimbursed, with appreciation/interest, as part of the prenup she's going to negotiate with Mr. Scorekeeper. And get that ring appraised, if only for insurance! Most likely, it's worth the weight of the gold, unless the rock is truly spectacular---and if it's an old-style cut, the rock might not even be valued highly!
But this guy's not a keeper. I suspect there have been other things that should have tipped her off, but she wanted it to work out so she looked away.