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conuly ([personal profile] conuly) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2024-07-06 04:48 pm

Some friend this turned out to be...!

A friend of mine is an amateur painter. She has a degree from one of the best colleges in the country (where she earned top grades), and she is able-bodied and healthy. After college, she decided to pursue painting, which is her passion. While she hopes to work professionally as an artist, she is currently working a part-time teaching job. She comes from an upper-middle-class household, and I know she has received some monetary support from her parents in the past. She does not live lavishly by any means, but she lives in a comfortable apartment with roommates and rents a separate art studio. I admire her for pursuing her art and have no problem with her receiving support from her parents as she works on her painting.

Recently, my friend told me that she uses the federally funded Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP) to purchase food for herself. I feel that this is dishonest and using the welfare system in a way that hurts those who need it most. When I expressed my concern, she told me that she is not taking a ‘‘spot’’ from someone else. Even though there is not a limit to the number of those who use SNAP via an Electronic Benefits Transfer card (the contemporary equivalent of food stamps), I feel that my friend is taking away from people who need it.

People from all backgrounds can struggle with finances and can (and should) benefit from the small amount of social support that the United States offers. But I feel that by not trying to work or applying to work full-time, and by accepting her parents’ money and using it to support her painting, my friend disqualifies herself from being a SNAP candidate. At the same time, I think artists are a necessary part of our country’s ecosystem, and I certainly do not think that using an E.B.T. card precludes a person from spending money on anything that isn’t a life-or-death necessity. But something about my friend’s situation rubs me the wrong way. Is what she’s doing ethical? — Name Withheld


From the Ethicist:

To begin with, there’s the question of whether she’s officially eligible for SNAP benefits. Though each state determines the eligibility of its residents, there are federal guidelines they must follow. Some pertain to income limits; to qualify for benefits for an extended period, there are also work requirements if you’re able-bodied and don’t have dependents (or other complicating circumstances). Approved volunteer activities can contribute toward the work requirement; the program isn’t designed to make you take the highest paying job you can get. So let’s assume she has accurately represented her situation, parental loans included, and does indeed meet the program’s criteria.

But then there’s the question of how to think about this. When you say you feel your friend is taking benefits from the needy, you don’t mean this literally. SNAP helps tens of millions of people, and there isn’t a cap on the number of recipients. Nobody is going without because of her enrollment. But you know this. Instead, I suspect your thought is that we shouldn’t rely on payments that come from other people’s work unless we have to.

You’re thinking of society, then, as a system in which each of us should use our talents to make whatever reasonable contribution we can. From this perspective, accepting public assistance when we could avoid doing so could look like taking advantage of our fellow citizens who are earning enough to support themselves — some of them by doing jobs they don’t much enjoy.

There’s a long history to this way of thinking about work. Some relates to talk of the ‘‘deserving poor,’’ but another influential formulation is found in the socialist tradition. The Soviet Constitution of 1936 declared, ‘‘In the U.S.S.R., the principle applied is that of socialism: ‘From each according to his ability, to each according to his work.’ ’’ (The allusion was to a slogan favored by certain French socialist thinkers of the first half of the 19th century, in a version not to be confused with the one that was introduced by other French socialists of the time and that ends ‘‘to each according to his needs.’’) Here, the thought was that, in a decent society, those who have the capacity to work should be rewarded commensurately with the value of what they produced. Socialists, of course, have tended to doubt that the true value of your work is adequately captured by your wage in a capitalist labor market.

I confess to finding this maxim unattractive, both on the ‘‘ability’’ side and on the ‘‘work’’ side. First, I don’t think society has a right to ask us to do a job just because we’re able to do it. Second, there’s no sensible system of valuing what a person contributes in such a way as to guarantee that it is matched by what they receive.

Still, there’s something to be said for the idea that we all should do our fair share to make our social arrangements work for everyone. My fair share may well depend on my abilities, but people should have broad latitude in deciding how to make their contribution. Part of your friend’s contribution is being made — as you imply in referring to our cultural ecosystem — by doing her work as an artist. She’s also making herself useful through her work as a teacher. If those activities aren’t earning her enough money to feed herself adequately, I don’t see why she shouldn’t take the help our society has decided to offer.

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[personal profile] minoanmiss 2024-07-06 09:02 pm (UTC)(link)
LW, have a friends break up with your friend, since you feel so extremely judgemental towards her decision to feed herself.

OR, listen to the (pleasantly surprisingly) good advice, undo your rectocranial inversion, and don't kick a talented interesting person out of your life.

Maybe have her over to dinner more often. And/or help her buy teaching supplies.
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[personal profile] oursin 2024-07-06 09:10 pm (UTC)(link)
'Amateur' artist is a bit condescending when it sounds friend is seriously working at it! (not exactly a weekend watercolourist dabbler.)

Wonder just how much parents are contributing and how much that comes with 'and have you sold anything yet'/'have you got a full-time teaching/or other art-related job yet' or other issues.
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[personal profile] ethelmay 2024-07-06 09:42 pm (UTC)(link)
People of considerable means take subsidies all the damn time, and SNAP is quite a small one (far smaller than it should be). Moreover, given the friend's income, low though it may be, she probably doesn't get anywhere near the max amount. It probably gets her about as much benefit as using a cash-back credit card would. Basically, even if I DID think she were cheating (I don't), I wouldn't think she was cheating all that much.

I think it's far more heinous that SNAP has to effectively subsidize wealthy business owners who pay their workers so little that they need benefits (Walmart is the most famous example, but there are others, I'm sure).
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[personal profile] full_metal_ox 2024-07-06 10:17 pm (UTC)(link)
I think it's far more heinous that SNAP has to effectively subsidize wealthy business owners who pay their workers so little that they need benefits (Walmart is the most famous example, but there are others, I'm sure).

And then there’s the U.S. military: https://finance.yahoo.com/news/food-stamps-guidance-us-army-140932153.html
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[personal profile] purlewe 2024-07-06 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)
LW. You are not their friend. Stop judging them. I am sure your judgement will come thru one day and they will be very hurt (rightfully so!).

A part time job, roommates, and parents who are probably paying for the studio. They are an artist and they making things work for them. And if that means they are using SNAP to buy food, then they are fine. YOUR judgement is not needed here. Move along.
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[personal profile] watersword 2024-07-06 10:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh my god, this LW needs a hobby. Perhaps they could take up painting?
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[personal profile] pauraque 2024-07-06 10:15 pm (UTC)(link)
I feel that [...] my friend disqualifies herself from being a SNAP candidate

Fortunately SNAP eligibility is based on actual specific criteria, not LW's feelings.
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[personal profile] ethelmay 2024-07-06 11:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, SNAP (as it were).
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[personal profile] castiron 2024-07-07 12:39 am (UTC)(link)
At one point during the acute pandemic, the local food bank was handing out food boxes near our house, and Spouse went and picked up a box. I was livid. We had no problem affording food. Sure, the food bank wasn't checking whether people needed it or not, and sure, maybe they had so much stock to use that it could afford to give away extra, but if they didn't, then someone who really needed the food was turned away or got less. (I made an extra donation to the food bank that month.)

But SNAP? I'm going to assume that someone who receives it genuinely needs it, because there is an application process and explicit income and asset levels one has to meet to qualify. And I'm okay with a few people who have helpful wealthier relatives getting SNAP if it means that people with unhelpful wealthier relatives can also get it.
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[personal profile] lilysea 2024-07-07 01:45 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, if people with wealthy relatives were banned from using SNAP

lots of LGBT people with wealthy homophobic/transphobic relatives

and not-religious people with super religious relatives

would go without food
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[personal profile] melannen 2024-07-08 07:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Even with the food pantry, if they were giving out pre-packed boxes of stuff without asking for any information, they probably were not turning people away for lack of food. Food is generally the thing food pantries have plenty of, because this culture has so much food "wasted" as unsold (and we are, actually, pretty good at incentivizing getting it to food pantries.) The first time I went to a food giveaway, the summer I was broke and housesitting in Chicago (but knowing I could ask for money from the parents and get it) the people working there told me they just want the food to get eaten and I don't need to feel guilty about it, and that's been more or less the same answer I've gotten at all of them. They are often as much doing the job of reducing food waste as helping food-insecure people.

They tend to be short on money, labor, logistics, space, and very specific kinds of food - our local one is always short of shelf-stable protein options, and the kind of high-calorie pre-packaged highly processed snack food that's good for unhoused people - but if they're handing out pre-packed boxes, not asking for any qualifiers, and there's not a line, you're probably doing them a favor by taking it and eating it. (They will always be glad for the cash donation, though.)
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[personal profile] castiron 2024-07-08 11:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks; that's good to know!
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[personal profile] matsushima 2024-07-07 08:59 am (UTC)(link)
I can't help but wonder if LW has some unexamined ish about their friend's parental-financial support and this is kind of more about that than SNAP - but SNAP is something they can feel self-righteous about without admitting (to themself?) that they're envious. (That envy is understandable but they need to work that out in therapy or a diary instead of taking it out on their friend.)

(I think LW has some unexamined ish about the social safety net, too, but that's addressed in the response.)
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[personal profile] movingfinger 2024-07-07 04:46 pm (UTC)(link)
LW certainly seems envious of their friend's family background and ability to Art. Rather ugly, and I am sure it is going to be coming out in view in social context.
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[personal profile] matsushima 2024-07-08 10:16 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, and it's understandable - a part time job and roommates would not pay for my rent, health care, student loans, etc., and a studio/office for me to write because my parents can't afford to support me financially like that. I wish!

… but that's LW's problem to deal with in therapy, not take out on their friend. It's not their friend's fault that the world is unfair. Maybe, I dunno, vote for candidates who support a stronger economic safety net?
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[personal profile] blueinkedfrost 2024-07-07 09:02 am (UTC)(link)
If you're eligible for a government benefit, you should attempt to claim it. It is good to demonstrate that the program is actually being used and useful to people. I see no indication here that friend is lying to get SNAP, so ethically she is in the clear.
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[personal profile] firecat 2024-07-07 02:58 pm (UTC)(link)
By all the deities, LW, aren’t there enough things wrong with the world that you are unable to change? Is it really good for you to add more?

I don’t apply for government benefits if I can afford to do without them, but policing other regular folks’ behavior around money? That way lies a serious hit to my sanity. No thanks.