Yeah, my trans Bonus Son hasn’t really changed his (scene-kid-style) presentation, still likes makeup and wigs, etc., but that doesn’t make him any less a boy, and I will defend to the death his right to identify and present as he pleases.

I agree that “unisex casual vs. highly-binary-gendered formal” is probably part of the issue here.

I am also very uncomfortable with the mother gatekeeping whether or not her kid is “really” trans because they haven’t previously made a lot of changes.