Curious to see what others think about this. I wouldn't see anything wrong with "breaking the ice" in texting if that will make the LW more comfortable talking in person later. Possibly she has a history of not doing that second part, which is what the friends are worried about? I don't know. I'd love to hear others' perspective, though, as I suppose I will be facing this second-hand in a few years (shudder) ;).