Is this just trolling ragebait?

[conuly]

or 15 years, my best friend and I have hosted a monthly dinner meant to keep the ol’ crew together as we’ve aged, married and had kids. We call it the Man Dinner — intentionally coarse and noninclusive. There are 30 guys on the list and about 10 of them show up regularly. No woman has ever been invited or attended. The wrinkle: A longtime attendee is transitioning to be a woman. I am of the opinion that we should remove her from the Man Dinner list. We can see her separately. Your thoughts?

MAN

Listen, it’s not my dinner club, and you are free to socialize as you like. But isn’t this friend part of “the ol’ crew”? And isn’t the whole point of your club that it’s increasingly difficult to keep up with old friends as we age and take on new responsibilities? So you probably aren’t likely to see her separately — perhaps at the very moment she needs support the most.

It doesn’t sound as if society would collapse if you relaxed the gender requirement at these dinners to include men and those who were assigned male at birth. And adhering to the letter of the law here — by excluding a trans woman who has been a longtime member of the club — seems to belie the warmhearted spirit of your enterprise.

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[azurelunatic]

It's a placeholder word, for whatever activity or meetup LW would like to do with his friend.

[full_metal_ox]

Thank you. Urban Dictionary, my mainstay when I’m out of the vernacular loop (i.e. most of the time), wasn’t being particularly informative.

[conuly]

It's more old school hacker terminology than modern slang, I think.

[azurelunatic]

Yes! It's one of the metasyntactic variables: foo, bar, and baz being three of the more popular.

[conuly]

Foo and bar, I’ve been told, coming originally from the word “fubar”.

[full_metal_ox]

There you go; my cyberhousebreaking began in middle age and has been extremely piecemeal.