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Is this just trolling ragebait?
or 15 years, my best friend and I have hosted a monthly dinner meant to keep the ol’ crew together as we’ve aged, married and had kids. We call it the Man Dinner — intentionally coarse and noninclusive. There are 30 guys on the list and about 10 of them show up regularly. No woman has ever been invited or attended. The wrinkle: A longtime attendee is transitioning to be a woman. I am of the opinion that we should remove her from the Man Dinner list. We can see her separately. Your thoughts?
MAN
Listen, it’s not my dinner club, and you are free to socialize as you like. But isn’t this friend part of “the ol’ crew”? And isn’t the whole point of your club that it’s increasingly difficult to keep up with old friends as we age and take on new responsibilities? So you probably aren’t likely to see her separately — perhaps at the very moment she needs support the most.
It doesn’t sound as if society would collapse if you relaxed the gender requirement at these dinners to include men and those who were assigned male at birth. And adhering to the letter of the law here — by excluding a trans woman who has been a longtime member of the club — seems to belie the warmhearted spirit of your enterprise.
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MAN
Listen, it’s not my dinner club, and you are free to socialize as you like. But isn’t this friend part of “the ol’ crew”? And isn’t the whole point of your club that it’s increasingly difficult to keep up with old friends as we age and take on new responsibilities? So you probably aren’t likely to see her separately — perhaps at the very moment she needs support the most.
It doesn’t sound as if society would collapse if you relaxed the gender requirement at these dinners to include men and those who were assigned male at birth. And adhering to the letter of the law here — by excluding a trans woman who has been a longtime member of the club — seems to belie the warmhearted spirit of your enterprise.
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That leaves 20 who do not.... I wonder how many of those are in the categories a) married b) have kids c) even heterosexual d) at all enjoy revisiting frat bro days, because it does not seem that they are keeping up with LW and his bestie on the regular. ('Damn, suppose for old time's sake ought to show up at LW's ghastly bro-fest for once rather than make my excuses'.)
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