Amy is immediately jumping to the worst possible motivations and conclusions – the husband in this case absolutely has the opportunity to say no, and his wife bringing up to him that she is interested in renegotiating the terms of their relationship does not mean that she’s doing it unilaterally, or that she is “seeking consent to stray.”

She’s trying to have an honest conversation with her husband, she gave him some time to think, it doesn’t sound like this is something that he wants, but how are you supposed to talk about these things if even bringing up the subject is viewed as a betrayal and a sign of an affair about to happen??