I see from one of the updates that in fact her work was much more draining and demanding than his, quite apart from his Unnecessary Macho Protestant Work Ethic attitude to downtime and curious standards of value - why are biographies that much better than fantasy novels? (chucks essays of Ursula Le Guin at him). And that she generally had a much healthier work/life balance sense.

But he'd sure internalised a lot of 'we are not here to enjoy ourselves' even when we're off the clock, sigh.