Right, the "come up with one-liners" solution is for getting through a day with co-workers who are your equal on the org chart and an HR department that "doesn't want to get involved," not parents who have power over every aspect of your life.

"She's just gotten so disrespectful," these parents would feel justified in complaining to their friends while they punished their teenager for being queer and having boundaries. "Of course she can have any identity she wants and we will love and support her. We're great like that. She just has to be respectful."